Um, it's never been a matter of letting her. And she doesn't respond much to encouragement either!

Would you ever let your S/O give you oral while you're on the phone?

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.