Zandalee, with Nick Cage, was a very sensuous movie revolving around a man living his life in pursuit of "this moment right now" and the woman that found that more enticing than her "safe" life at home. And how it was a great place to visit...often...but how it's nice to have that stable place to return to as a safety net.

It was an interesting view of how things can look when one steps back and sees the entire picture and how contrasting aspects of it can be.

That really made me think that each of us have cravings, and how the best solution to satisfying them is the right mix of all of them. There's a time to be responsible and controlled, and there needs to be the freedom to be uninhibited and out of control.

In other words...tying me to the bed & whipping me so hard you leave red welts across my back while your panties are stuffed into my mouth to muffle the cries is a lot sexier when the mortgage payment has been made.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.