Nice poems.. and the first one really got me thinking...

There have been times in my life that I have so desperately missed having a partner that the ache was almost unbareable.. and then there was a time during my marriage that I swore to myself that I would rather be alone and lonely... than lonely with someone else (as I was with him).

A few years ago... an older woman very close to me lost her husband of many years. I had gotten to know them during my divorce and I held them in high regard. I watched them together and how after nearly 45 years they still adored one another. I would often watch them and think to myself how I hoped to find that someday.... that was my deepest goal... someone who I could adore.. and would in return adore me.. 45 years later...

Then... tragically without warning... he was gone. I watched this woman.. a very strong woman... suffer and ache for the man she has loved her entire life. As her friend, all I could do was offer emotional support... but I knew as did everyone around her that there was absolutely nothing any one of us could do that would fill the void that she was left with. It was watching her go thru this that somewhere in my mind I decided that what they had.. wasn't what I wanted afterall. Why on earth would I want to wish such pain and sorrow upon myself once the man I loved was gone?

Then one day... while talking to her... I again changed my mind. I realized that all the pain and ache that she was now induring was only a small price for all the love, devotion, and time that they were given with one another...

Again.. that is my dream... to find a man.. that I can look at 45 years later and adore...

just a few thoughts on love... and how falling in love is not only the worst thing that can happen to a person... but it is also the very best thing that can...

I hope that everyone here is blessed with that kind of love... even me