Personally, i have never had anything worse than yeast infections. BUT i have 2 very good friends that have Herpes. they are in a long term relationship with each other. When they got together, before they had sex, he told her that he had it and has had it since he was 17 (he was 28 at that time). He told her that he had never "given" it to his ex-wife, or his daughters' mothers, and knew when it was ok to have sex or not. She trusted him and not only ended up pregnant, but contracted herpes from him. She is acutely embarassed that she has this, as he was the 4th man in her life. the 3 previous were also long term relationships. she was the "good girl" and at times resents him for passing herpes on to her. there have been times when there relationship was a little rocky, and she told me that if they were to separate, she could never in good conscious have sex with another partner again. She would be devistated to know that she had transmitted to another person.

I guess with sharing this story with you, and her feelings of being "trapped" and sometimes resentful, do you think that you would feel that way? I know that from living thru this vicariously thru her, that i would feel that and resent my partner, and cause strife in our relationship.