Awww you love us and you know it. :D

Personally I like it here, I might not post much but that isn't because i feel i'll be violated or put down, its just the way I am. Thank you for having this site, i enjoy it alot!

I know this is going to be a long post....so I admire anyone who actually reads through it all. I guess I am feeling a bit Lixy-like this evening.....My body clock is set somewhere over South Dakota, and I flew about 2600 miles today....and had one too many scotches en route. ;)

First, on feeling comfortable on pixies (here's another bulleted list for ya, wyndhy):
* There are some cliques here, and it took me almost 15 months to feel "at home" here -- two events made it happen....(1) IAKG's patient friendship, and (2) meeting Aqua (which seemed to soften a couple of people up. :p )
* Sometimes I still feel left out, even though I have 13K+ posts and I am one of 10 most prolific posters on the site.
* I *know* I am different than most members -- and I have learned to sometimes hold my tongue, but often my difference from the group has kept me coming back. Where else can you meet suuch a diverse group of basically good people?

Thoughts on Pixies in general:
* We can be a surprizingly conservative group. I've seen lots of people flamed for disrespect. questionable sex practices, infidelity, deflowing virgins, and the like. Our response often depends on tone.......Howeever, it has often struck me that we are a curiously conservative group for a sex site. :spin:
* There are an amazing number of people here with some of the deepest and most wonderful hearts I've ever met...and this keeps me coming back.
* It bothers me that some topics like politics are paux pas in Pixies. I think these topics -- properly labeled -- should be open game. If CGT doesn't want to read them (or anyone else!) then oyu don't need to. :D ((I say this as kindly as I can. I rarely look at pics because many of them do not interest me....If I don't want to see them, I just don't open the threads.))
* I think sometimes this site can be a bit "dummed down." There are a few of us on the site who are engineers, intellectuals, politics, current events, science lovers, and the like. I almost *never* start a thread in one of these topics, because it ***always*** gets ignored or hijacked. I feel like it's *uncool* to be a smart or politically aware Pixie, and that seems like a damn shame to me. :(

I've welcomed many new members, and I love new blood here. There are very few Pixies I dislike (although I am sure more than a few dislike me. HaHa). I *have* occasionally flamed someone -- I did it recently (about a week or so ago) I believe. I've never checked with a mod before a post, and to my knowledge have only had one post removed because of the content that I posted. I think the mods do a grand job in this department, and I thank them all for their time and thoughtfulness.

(((((hugs to all)))))

:wine: Thanks for the mudslide Lil

I first heard the word in the 70's satirical sex flick (say that 5 times real fast!) "Flesh Gordon & the Sex Ray" ...was used as a form of address to the evil Dr Wang by one of his soldiers, as in, "Your Assholiness"...my wife, friends, & myself immediately seized that as the perfect title to bestow on a certain sawed-off egomaniaical guitar player we knew...






& yeh, I'm hijacking this thread, Take me to...uh, someplace warm I guess...
:ahole:

I've been here a long time, but dip my lid to Sharni and a few others.

Any threads I don't feel drawn to, or feel I can't enter without creating more shit than I'm

ready to shovel, I decline to enter.

We have had some brilliant new blood, and others who bore themselves to death in hours.

We will always have differences, but we need to harness the diversity and revel in it.

We have moulded the site into a particular shape, and anyone who can't cope with our

shape, colour, flavour and philosophy range can go elsewhere.

Cheyanne, yay!

Osuche, never felt negatively towards you, just jealous of your spontenaity and

joy of life.

Thanks scotz....lol. I knew I heard it somewhere but for the life of me I couldn't remember.

:)

I have read and re-read this thread and while I am a new member I have to say that upon my first visit to the chat room I was made to really feel welcomed and it seemed quite real. I am a regular at another chat site where I also post my stories and after about 6 months I started to feel like I was really part of the group. Not here however...........afer my first visit I felt that I had found a great place to chat and visit and I think that is due to the warm welcome I had from Chey as well as from several others.

I also think that age is very much a part of how a person is accepted, with age come knowledge as well as understanding and most important patience. Waiting to learn about people, getting to know them either through their postings or by listening in the chat room. To many time people approch chat as well as posting sites like they are not real places and that the basic rules of social interaction do not apply. They treat these places as if they are there for their personal convenence (sp) and will just go away when they log off. As for me, as well as for many others I am sure we look at Pixies, and other sites, like ...well a coffee shop where we can all get together and interact. socialize and make friends....(at least I hope so).

Anyway that is my way of looking at the whole thing for what it is worth.
Robert
aka Master Scribe

I've seen a lot of comments pass by in this thread and have found it somewhat enlightening into the character of some our posters. So there is definetly some good coming from the thread.

As for the topic at hand, albeit somewhat modified, I find that I do look at a lot of the posts/threads that are here. If I find that one catches my eye I usually read through the whole thing and then keep up with it on a dalily basis. Only occasionally do I actually post anything. That's just a product of my personallity. I have found that in most cases I have not managed to agravate other Pixes too much (at least I think so :)) but I strongly try to adhere to the "if you have nothing nice to say..." rule as well.

The one thing that I can say is that in some cases when the originating poster is asking for advice/opinions they should be more than expecting to hear something that they are not going to like. You've all heard it before, "Opinions are like a**holes, everybody has one." And if you ask for someone's opinion then when you get one that does not necessarily give the answer you may have been looking for you probably should consider it to see if there are any merits to it.

I can only recall a few instances where a newbie has gotten "jumped" by the group here and, best I can recall, they, in my opinion, had it coming.

As a second part of this post I would still like to re-iterate that although we all do like the fact that this is a community that we come visit. The fact is that it is a moderated site and that in the end if the mods need to be somewhat dictatorial then I support that as well. I do not always like what they do but I do support it. It is because of their hard work that a place like this can continue to be what it is. I have stated this opinion more than once before here and I still stand by it.

In any case, I'm off to see about getting some coffee...
-Toast

I don't visit pixies as often as I used to, but I have never felt rejected, even when I was a newbie. I've not agreed with other pixies, but I've never been rude to them and they've never been rude to me. I'd guess if peple did not post harsh words, they wouldn't get treated the same.

..just my :cents: worth

PS - as for the harsh words...I've already seen it here today. Little wonder there are tensions!

Thanks everyone who has taken time to read and post. I appreciate everyone who took the time to formulate a response and send kisses to the highjackers on this flight. The insight on how you see Pixies and in some cases how you see yourself or others as part of a whole has made for an interesting read. Thanks again.

I remember what it feels like to be a newbie. I see it all the time at Habitat. One of my obligations is to embrace new people. Welcome them into the fold, so to speak. Who doesn't remember at some point being the one walking into a place not knowing too many people and not really sure of yourself? Remember how comforting it was when someone smiled, said "hi" and shook your hand? Or how upsetting it was when no one did?

I try to say "hi" to people that introduce themselves. I guess I could be a little more diligent about it though. Thanks for the gentle reminder, Lil.

EVERYONE! Watch and learn!

Hiya Scarecrow! Welcum to Pixies hun! I'm so glad to see you posting right out of the box! You are going to love this place, of that I am sure! Beings this is a sex site, per say, I feel obligated to show you the ropes.

*walking towards the scarecrow while unbuttoning my blouse...my breasts bounce free and a smile comes to his...um...well...there could be a sewn on mouth there...yeah, there is!...and a smile comes to his mouth and his button eyes light up (as light as buttons can get, I spose...lol!)...I take his straw hand and put it on my right waist and take his other straw hand and put it on my left waist...and reach down to his farmer's jeans and unbutton the button and unzip them in one fell swoop...his straw stuffing falls out and I can see he is excited to be here (can't I?????)...I pull him close so that our bodies are touching and my breasts are rubbing his crunchy chest...(omg...lol!)...his straw hands fall to my bottom and, albeit a little scratchy, the feeling is good to the touch...we hold our position for a few tender moments and I suddenly realize just how long he's been "outstanding in his field", as I feel the moisture from his straw leaking down my thighs...I pull back and smile and kiss his sewn lips and lead him off to get restuffed and have a look around*

*giggle, snort*

Sorry guys...but I just couldn't let Scarecrow's reply go unanswered.

Lil? Do you have a robo-spanker in the dungeon? I've heard they can be pretty intense (sexually exciting with some pain to boot!) and if we get any input as to our punishment...I'd like that one please!!!????

Oh...and scotz? TY! Yes! I remember that movie now (vividly)...and I guess Summer and I have some splainin to do about our plagiarizing (Oh No! Is that a word?...is now!) LOL!

OK...I'm done! This ain't a real hijacking cause I have no weapons...so there! *raspberries* :rofl:

:faint:

Oh No! Anybody have a large stick I can shove up this scarecrows' ass? He's fallen and I can't prop him up!


Yes...I know! I'm getting out of hand now!

*exit...stage left*

Osuche tell me one thing....... What good has ever came from a political thread at this site? None! All it ends up being is a bunch of name calling. If I were to say something I didn't like about the english government or the chinese gov't. then I'd be labeled prejudice or racist now wouldn't I? Yes, I know you're trying to be civil about this and so am I. Btw I've always liked you and I know you are a very smart lady and I admire you. But STILL this IS a SEX forum. Why do we want to invite discussions that we know cause tempers to flare?

Hello. I post occasionally on Pixies and sometimes with strong opinions. Brevity is a trait I acquired during my journalism days. There were some rough patches in the beginning, and occasionally I slip. Lilith or Sharni will make some suggestions, point me in the right direction or remind me of policy. When I post in a thread, I try to read as many of the postings in it, to get the feel of what is happening with that thread. Would humor or seriousness be more appropriate? Is a kind word needed? Should I let my own feelings influence my posting there? I cannot post with regularity because my free time is at odd times. Anyway, I just wanted to tell it as I see it. Thank you.

I hate to tell you this but not all pixies are angels. I've had my fair share of rude PM's I've just never done anything about them. I guess thats why I'm getting so touchy in my old age. :rolleyes2

I'm not quite a newbie here, but I remember back when I was and I have to say that I have NEVER felt unwelcome or left out. If I had've felt that way, I wouldn't be here now. I've never been flamed, either. Not that I remember. We all have little spats and disagreements, but you have to pick up and go on with things.

When a newbie posts something that's nothing short of infuriating, he/she has to expect to be flamed. Just my 2c.

I hesitated to post in this thread, but I have to say that I couldn't agree more with what oldfart posted.

Pardon my rude interruption, as I'm not osuche, but felt compelled to throw in a response...

I've never quite understood the concept of why political or other contorversial yet intellectual topics were taboo or become heated quickly. I understand that the underlying tone of pixies-place is erotica and sexuality, but if that is all that it was intended to be, with no furhter expansion, why do we have a forum that is titled "GENERAL CHAT" with the subtitle chat about anything here ? I see plenty of threads sprinkled across the forum that are non-sex related, yes a sexual innuendo may be added to the thread, or a flirt and a tease, but the underlying tone of the thread isn't necessarily sex. These threads aren't cast aside or complained about. The only thing I see wrong with the political threads is that people are passionate at pixies-place. And oftentimes passion prevents us from being most civil to one another, as it causes us to speak straight from the heart. Would it be such a wrong thing for citizens of our world to be passionate about politics of our locale and the world? Goodness something just might change with knowledge and passion.

Now maybe I'm out of line here, and if so, I'm confident someone will let me know. I understand that there are political forums that I could go to and have discussions until the end of time, but perhaps I just enjoy the company of pixies-place more and I enjoy listening/reading the ideas of these sexy people. I can't help but agree that if someone is offended by a topic or feels the needs to scream at the top of their lungs because of the contents that they could just as easily avoid the thread as they could scream. We are all adults and capable of making choices.

I personally, don't take enough time to become as educated as I could about politics within my country or globally, and thus am not quick to respond to the threads, but to the point that an intellectual and informative discussion is being had, I enjoy reading and learning it from my pixies rather than some drone of a news reporter.

Those are my :cents: , and I don't expect to be agreed with universally but hope that my thoughts also aren't offending to anyone as that certainly isn't my intent.

:rant:

Just to respond to Pixies having controversial threads. I have no problem with it and would enjoy seeing more. Pixies is like family in so many ways and families discuss, debate and yes even rant at one another about a variety of topics. I believe debate is healthy and if done with respect for the person and not attacking them but the topic people can learn from each other.

I don't want to go to other boards to discuss hot topics with strangers. I would rather do it here with people I know and like. Even if we have very different view points on a certain topic doesn't mean we can't agree on other issues. That's what keeps us all interesting and unique. :)

Lilith,

Pixies Place is not perfect, and it cannot be. It is, at the same time the most accessible and accommodating site of which I’m aware. It is unusual for a member to “go after” another member or to disfigure a thread, and even then usually only when provoked. Not unheard of, but very unusual.

It will never be possible for all new voices to find a home here, but I am aware of only a very few who the existing members were were unable to accommodate.

i’d like to weigh in on this speaking as a semi-newbie. i don’t worry that that’s what other people thinkof me, that’s how i think of myself. i just started writing but i’m warning you before you go on, i might have a lot to say. :D

i have been a pixie for almost a year and i am beginning to understand the basics, nevermind the intricacies. i seem to have a eureka about something, technical or social, every week. i know i’ve said before that i stumbled onto this sight but i don’t think you know how stumble-y it really was. it’ll give you an idea when i say i was reading pixies’ stories for about 6 months before i even noticed there were buttons on the page that said things like ‘post’ let alone what they meant. i didn’t know what this place was nor had i ever haerd about anything like it. it was a surprise to me whe i saw there were conversations going on. knowing what i do now, i would have introduced myself and taken time to get to know the place. instead i jumped right in. i had no idea i was entering a house and didn’t act accordingly. i wasn’t abrasive but i didn’t even say hi. like i said…clueless.

when i joined here people were nice, but not overly so. and some people were rude….but not overly so. i wasn’t crying over it. there was, in my case, a time or two where i was called on something that someone else was not. was that a double standard or abuse of senority? i don't know, because maybe that other someone was called on it, too, but privately. i think people forget sometimes that everthing that goes on does not happens right there in balck and white for all to see. and anyway, that’s life, some people are snots. and i didn’t wish someone would come to my rescue or make sure i was being treated fairly but then again i didn’t understand that therewas even anyone out there that could or would. it wouldn’t have made a difference anyway. and because that was my first understanding of pixies it is the one i still carry with me now. yes the mods are there for help and i have asked for it but i don't expect them to protect me, babysit me or spoon feed me. i am a big girl and i will sink or swim on my own and take my commuppance when it's due.

so where i’m going with this is to say that that ^^^ doesn’t give me any qualifications to comment on flaming and how pixies and other sights handle it. the only other forum i’ve seen is two brief glimpses of literotica. and i’m not even sure of it’s exact meaning. i know it’s when someone gets ganged up on but i don’t’ know when it stops being telling a jerk to get an attitude adjustment and starts being flaming. but as a member of pixies who likes it here and cares about it and checks out the discussions about a hundred times more than she checks out the pictures, i’d like to say how i see it. i am unqualified in the extreme but i am continuing on because you asked and i know that you genuinely want everyone who wants to speak do so. and that, i think, is a good example of how welcoming pixies is already.

unfortunately, i don’t think you can make new people feel more welcome, lil. besides just being nice yourself (which you are) and setting the example and putting things back on track when they go astray (which you do), you can’t force the issue. in fact, maybe thats what this thread is about ina way, too: a reminder of sorts.

i really do think letting people have their say is allowed at pixies. show me one time where a mod said you’re not allowed to have that opinion and i’ll retract that statement. snotty and nasty are different and we can all tell the difference. if you wanna be a snot go ahead but don’t come crying if you find yourself suddenly on the defensive. and if someone wants to be rude they shouldn’t complain when someone else calls them on it--just as you are allowed to speak your mind, so am i. dealing with sheer nastiness is is just one of the ways the mods keep pixies friendly; if you’re nasty it’s not long before you are shown the door. it’s a shame that people don’t post more interesting discussions on occasion. i am another one that would love a spirited debate on (insert interesting controversial topic here) but then again, i would never turn something like that pesonal. some do and that ruins it for all. if having controversial discussions ruins the site it’s frankly not worth the trade off. c’est la vie

and i’m just hypothesizing here (apropos how some have said that they feel the mods weren't as interfering in the past) but it could be that because of the sensitivity to it and the troubles it’s caused in the past, that the lines between meanie and snot are getting blurred. perhaps an avoid-at-all-costs approach has crept in here, prematurely quashing anything that has the distant scent of nasty. which in turn has promted members to become more sensitive to it as well. pixies has been evolving for some time now and it will continue to do so. i can tell you that the the way the mod's have reacted to nastiness has been consistent and fair since i joined but on occasion i do go back through the much earlier threads (this, as newbie-to-newbie advice, is a neat and often touching or funny way to get to know people who have been around awhile) and it does seem to me people got away with a bit more than they do now, but not a whole lot. then again i would never know any private communtications in either case. either way, you are the ones who make the judgement calls now that will maintain the level of integrity the owners want. you gotta call em as you see em and in no way do i think this should be democratic. i do not envy you in the least. you’re almost always going to upset someone. i can practically feel how frustrating this would be.

this isn’t a party, lil, where you are the hostess and need to personally make certain everyone knows where the potty is and has someone to talk to. it’s a house. a huge, rambling, old many-corridored mansion where people communicate through post-it notes stuck on the walls. you’ve put up signs, you’ve categorize the site so people can find what they are looking for. you are welcoming and friendly and helpful and that is enough, more than enough. but actually trying to find a place where every pixie can fit it? you can break the forums down into even more specific categories i guess and put stickies in every one telling any who cares to read them about the expectations, philosophy and rules but i don’t think it’s possible to make sure everyone is happy here. i love that you even want to try, though. (((((((hugs))))))) it says volumes about the kind of person you are.

What the hell, bibi? I had a great hijack opportunity and you deleted your post! :D

LMAO...don't you think it was a wise move? ;)

More interesting reads....I appreciate everyone who has made an effort to voice their views.

Some clarifications, since some people seem confused. The only topics that are not permitted here are those regarding minors (which includes discussions about your own experiences as a minor), and bestiality. In the past, myself or moderators have pulled or edited threads where people quit debating the subject and begain to be rude and disrespectful to others in the thread. This is usually only after my attempts through PMs to curb their attitude has failed. When this occurs, I do not need everyone to view the posts and give me their opinion before I act in what I believe to be the best interest of the site and it's members.

Most long term members have seen how controversial threads play out. It's consistently the same....view one, view two, view one with support, view two with support, view one with support, view two with support, view one with support, view two with support, view three, view one with support, view two with support, view three with support, view one with support, view two with support, view three hurling insults cause they came into the whole thing with no real support, view one and view two get steamed, view three hurls more insults, view one with support, view two hurls some back............. after about the 3rd page of it , everyone else feels pissed and the spectators are stressed. So it's come down to where, as many have expressed that they prefer not to have them started because they come here to escape from all the pressures of their lives and don't like to have to wade through them here. So the topic has been hashed over and everyone has their views.

People are free to talk about whatever floats their boat. While we are a moderated forum we do not remove threads unless there is something about them that violates our site's policies whether it be the written ones or the ones Kim set down for me to follow. If people want to discuss and debate that's great, however they need to be prepared for view three who does not know how to support his/her opinion without slamming someone else or bickering. And they should expect that when that occurs a moderator will step in.

As for being able to avoid threads if properly labeled.....well that would be great but people will not do that and we really can't expect that in an open forum with nearly 20,000 members.

I love the people here. They are the funniest, warmest, wittiest, people I could ever hope to encounter in one place and I just try to do my best to keep the place welcoming.

Ah geees Lilith :lurv:

If I only had a brain :dance:

re:
Well said. While I am not a fan of the political discussions I do not see why they should not be allowed in the "general" section if people can be civil.

-Toast

I'll be choosing view 42 to support... when that one finally comes along...

*LOL*...didja read Liliths post at all?? Just curious :D

Yes I did :D and I guess I was more attempting to support the notion that we are able to have all kinds of posts here and that I would not like it if that changed.

However, since this is not view #42 I can not say that this reply is to support my original post. I need to wait before I pipe up again.

What if we skip view 42 and go directly to 43???? Milktoast, what will you support then???? these???? :boobs:

Nothing!!! I tells ya... nuthin... I'll just go find some soap box to tear out from under somebody and go play all by myself in the corner :bang:

there is a quiet cozy corner in the dungeon I could chain ya to ;)

Gentlefolk,

Please consider what a member (now quiet) once said in a similar thread:



Let us not let a discussion about welcoming new members become one about who should say what to whom.

You're pardoned. And thank you for responding. Maddy I don't call quotes like these passionate.
Political threads could be very informative and educational if we didn't have to deal with quotes like these!


My perspective is 22 years in the military and a vietnam vet. I'm with Nikki on this too. Kerry is a lying, self-serving traitor. At least Jane Fonda appologized, Kerry never did.

Second reason is another 4 more years of WARS. :jedi2: :jedi2: I hate to see more innocent people die. There is no peace when Bush is still there. :jedi2: :jedi2:

But my man said if Ketchup man win, may be it isn't that good for China since the ketchup man wants to cut back those job opportunities that sent to China.
My heart go out to those innocent people was dead during these 4 years of Bush
But the down side is Bush has no concept of foriegn policy. If he got a fortune cookie that said "There will be a major conflict in your life soon", he'd probably go to war. Not to mention, he's also a puppet of Zionists in the US gov't.

And I'm not too sure about Kerry either, given that he's always changing his mind. He said he'll "preserve peace" across the Taiwan strait. In America, "preserve peace" often means go to war,
There are no doubt some people are smirking at the Bush win,but it is the rest of us and the rest of the world who was counting on Bush and company to lose the election who are the real loosers.

I'm worried about EVERYTHING now that America has made the mistake...again...

In Britain all we can do is try to vote for a leader who won't behave like America's lap dog in the next General Election, rather than the spineless deceiver who currently asks 'How high?' when America says 'Jump'. If however, Tony Blair remains in power, we too, have another 4 years of George Bush's rule.


This isn't creative criticism, its mudslinging, name calling, whatever you wanna call it. We can HAVE a discussion without all of this type of talk people.(and that was off of just 2 threads).
If people will act more mature when they post so will I. :)

I agree with you CGT!

If everyone could have adult conversations about Politics it would be ok. But the fact is that it can't be done. Some members feel isolated because of their political outlook, and it isn't fair for them to feel this way....I personally don't feel that this is the place.

If I want to discuss politics (and believe me, sometimes I do) I will go to a political board.

This is only my humble oppion....back to reading the rest of this thread!

If you don't care for political discussions, then why read the thread? It is kinda like if you don't like a program on TV - don't you change the channel?

I remember when Agua and I got into a discussion about guns and gun control... we are pretty much at oposite ends of the spectrum and the disucssion NEVER got heated only because we understood that each had the right to their opinion.

I believe what osuche was trying to say is that there is room for political discussion or discussion of topics that could become heated as long as those contributing to the thread understand that other peeps may have a different view. In addition, peeps need to understand and be prepared that sometimes certain topics will probably flare up others emotions.

cowgirltease & Mackenzie,

I trust you won’t take offense, but I disagree with you. I have learned quite a bit from the controversial discussions here at Pixies, and I feel I am the better for them. Further, political threads need not degenerate into ugliness. Permit me to provide two examples of what I suggest were “good” political threads. The first was A Pride Regained started by lakritze on August 10 of last year, and the other was Aussies join the lie fest started by Grumble on October 2.

In the “A Pride Regained” thread I learned quite a bit about the Australian government while researching my replies, that voting is compulsory in both Australia & Brazil (I think that PantyFanatic learned that then also), and a whole bunch about the American Electoral College. I also learned that there seems to be a bit of tension among the Australian electorate in re their relationship to the Queen.

Now I will grant you that not all the comments in that thread were called for, but there was no flaming or mud-slinging. The debate could reasonably be described as “spirited”, rather than “nasty”. Sharni & Irish agreed about something, and miracle of miracles, so did lakritze and I!

In the “Aussies join the lie fest” thread I (re)discovered the substantial ANZAC involvement in the Galipoli campaign while researching my replies, something of Australia’s involvement In World Wars I & II, and how close WWII is to some of the Pixies from Oz. Belial allowed as how he had changed his opinion.

I could only find one post in the entire thread which I would consider coarse or antagonistic.

cowgirltease, I admit that the quotes you posted are regrettably antagonistic and I too wish that people would hesitate before posting what may upset others. Still, I would rather not suppress open exchange of honest opinions – particularly as it can be done in a civilized manner.

I am sure that there are alternatives which do not require segregating political discourse into yet another sub-forum with the inevitable moving of threads out of their original forums because they became "too political" or "too controversial".

:nopics:


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